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Good head hard to come by
I just wanted to thank you for your insight concerning men and their lack of interest in the oral arts (NOW, October 24-30).
It was incredibly uplifting for me to read in a particularly needy time. As a younger person, coming into the world of sex has been exciting and eventful. Unfortunately, I, too, have felt the negative effects of an unaccommodating male mentality. The fun is dropping off all too soon.
I, for one, aspire to do a damn good job in the sack and am brought down by the lack of attention I receive in return. I assure you, there is no explainable reason why the boys shy away from the female anatomy (my own in particular).
Even when I can get him into that “compromising” position, I’m left with an all-too-familiar breathing pattern.
Maybe it’s just a young man’s naïveté that causes him to take for granted a good blow job after days without showering.
Name withheld by request
Pussy before pride
emma roberts asks “why aren’t men proud of being pussy eaters?” Some of us love to go down, because we aren’t proud.
The sweetest sound in the world is of a woman who’s turned on by what my tongue does to her vulva. But I can’t know what turns her on unless I ask. Asking and listening is the key. Pride just gets in the way.
Mark Lindenberg
Toronto
We can’t read minds, ladies
Regarding box lunching. As a young man, I was immensely curious about how to improve my pussy-eating skills. I asked my girlfriends all the time.
I don’t know about how all men feel about eating out, but my own experiences confirm that if women want men to get better at sucking pussy, they’d better learn how to pipe up about it and stop quietly hoping that their men suddenly become clairvoyant.
Most women are too shy or disconnected from their own sexual feelings for even a concerned man to gauge if what he’s doing is pleasurable. As the saying goes: you are responsible for your own orgasm.
Joe Burns
Toronto
Too pooped to scoop
I was walking to work west-ward along King this morning. As I approached St. James’ Cathedral, I noticed a man letting his huge dog shit on the front lawn.
He didn’t even consider stooping to pick up the massive pile of waste left behind by his gigantic pet.
When I passed him I noticed it was none other than the most bloated member of one of Hollywood’s washed-up band of brothers.
I’m not usually one to see signs in the world around us, but thought this was particularly symbolic of the American film industry’s presence in our city.
J. Allen
Toronto
Postal union plotted, too
Your article on Canada Post and their union spying activities in the early 90s caught my interest (NOW, October 24-30).
I was hired by Canada Post part-time in 1992. Don’t think for a moment that the union didn’t keep records, too, or do nefarious deeds. Ha, ha… of course, mes amis, and not only that, but it let down a whole generation of workers.
If union busting became a widely accepted corporate practice, then union submission also became the norm. A lot of us workers can attest to that with our financial records and personal histories.
During the time your article described, as a full dues-paying CUPW member, I was at the union hall more than once asking WTF?
name withheld by request
Looking like the bad guys
it seems just a tad hypocritical for NOW to justifiably rip through this city’s problems on advertising over-stimulation (NOW, October 24-30), and yet just a few pages later you’ve got a half-page ad for an event called “AdNight,” not to mention the five full-page ads for the opening of the Best Buy stores.
Isn’t this one of those times where your editorial bias and overindulgence in advertising meet head-to-head, leaving you looking just like every other bad guy in the advertising battle?
W. Andrew Powell
Editor, TheGATE.ca
Sad day for human rights
RE and the winners are (NOW, October 24-30).
It’s no coincidence that four of Canada’s most hurtful journalists are being honoured by B’nai Brith. It is a sad day for human rights indeed.
Not once, even in passing reference, did any of the honoured journalists expressed an ounce of sympathy or write anything positive about Arabs and Muslims in their coverage of the Middle East.
For their work to be honoured by a leading human rights organization is devastating
Jehad Aliweiwi
North York
Gostick a crank
Sheila Gostick’s banal musings on the Toronto Anarchist Bookfair (NOW, October 24-30) resonate with the trite, easy nihilisms and sophomoric posturing that contemporary anarchists have (usually) tried to move past.
Gostick’s idiotic perspective is nowhere more apparent than in the self-aggrandizing tone of her prose: “cranky, hardcore self,” “too rude to be an anarchist,” etc.
And as if to prove she actually is something of a fellow traveller and not some mere dilettante rent-a-journalist, she offers us an anecdote concerning — wonder of wonders — how she actually spoke to someone who lives on the street.
Maybe it’s just my “cranky, hardcore self” speaking, but class war, here we come!
Sheila, if you’re really troubled that the current anarchist milieu may have an awareness of the power relations that constrict our everyday lives but has descended into “politeness,” well, allow me to allay your troubling suspicions and ask you to go fuck yourself, you dumb fucking twit.
pat fifield
Toronto
Reductive reasoning
Glenn Wheeler’s article on the NPI conference (NOW, October 24-30) is strangely myopic.
It appears to start from the assumption that the NPI exists solely as a sort of left crypto-caucus of the NDP.
NPI’s overall goals are much broader than simply “kingmaking.”
If Wheeler had referred to the “Next Steps” adopted by the conference, he would have seen that among the NPI’s priorities are increasing our own organizational capacity through a range of initiatives.
I am surprised Wheeler chose to present such a reductive and therefore misleading picture of a very productive event.
Elise Moser
NPI Coordinating Committee
Montreal
File under paranoid
How unfortunately typical of someone who associates himself with leftist idealism to resort to coarse expletives when trying to label Steve MacDonald’s lucid observations of the moral decay of liberalism today (NOW, October 24-30).
People who lean toward the right are also against “homelessness, hunger, ecological devastation and police harassment.”
The left just doesn’t like it when the right criticizes the left’s approach to resolving these issues. Does Andrew James honestly think people sit around trying to figure out better ways to kick others while they’re down? File under paranoid.
David Mason
Islington
Stone free
re: jeff feldman’s letter dope-heads Get Their Yayas (NOW, October 24, 2002).
Rock culture is to some extent a drug culture. So, Jeff, if you regard those who choose to smoke a joint with such contempt, you can always wait until Sealion D’Yawn comes to town (or alternatively, check out her Vegas act). Be forewarned, though, Nevada is currently contemplating legalizing ganja.
Carey Ker
Toronto
Femininity with a punch
thank you for the article on
Coed boxing (NOW, October 17-23). It’s encouraging to see an article about active women participating with men in a traditionally male-exclusive sport.
What’s most appreciated, however, is that the article doesn’t downplay the “female” version of the sport by comparing it to the “real” (and therefore “superior”) male version.
Aside from the description of Christine Brubaker as “vivacious” (an adjective never used to characterize a male boxer, I’d bet), the author avoids that all-too-familiar habit of commenting on the degree of “femininity” women athletes manage to retain — as if being feminine and being athletic were mutually exclusive.
We’re all familiar with the stereotypes associated with aggressive women. While I don’t necessarily agree with their choice of sport (I think boxing should be banned for health reasons), I congratulate the men and women at Sully’s Gym for participating together.
Sandy Wells
Toronto
Island Airport needs link
re: lie of the week (now, octo-
ber 17-23).
If Toronto is going to have an Island Airport, then it needs a fixed link.
I have not lobbied for or against the Island Airport, but several years ago I wrote to city council highlighting the inadequacy of emergency service response times from the mainland, as documented in a 1993 government task force report.
Your article last week incorrectly implied that I was promoting the airport.
My interest is personal. I’m motivated by a concern for the passengers, flight crews and their families.
Bruce Davis
Etobicoke
No defence for French
Am i the only one who found Dan Savage’s column (NOW, October 17-23), with its remark that “French Canadians and religious jackasses are six of one, half a dozen of the other,” racist?
The fact that nobody commented (except Ms. Ramundo in a letter last week) speaks volumes about your society.
Louis Labrecque
Toronto
