I have never gone to a brothel before, and I would really like to experience it. I am female, but I hope that won't pose a problem. Also, I don't know much about them. I was wondering if you can give me the details of what happens at a brothel and are they expensive? Lastly, are they are hard to find in Toronto.
Hungry for Pussy
Not so fast. There's a 12-month stay on the legality of brothels in Canada to give Parliament a chance to draft new legislation that doesn't contravene the Charter. Let's see what kind of shenanigans they get up to before we start picking out the velvet drapes and coming up with clever business names with the word "beaver" in them.
Bawdy houses remain criminal for the next 12 months, but, my dear, that doesn't mean they don't exist. You are free to peruse TERB or any other site that promotes in-calls to find yourself one. You are unlikely to find one that suits your imagination, mind you. Most "brothels" are simply condominium apartments used by girls to service clients on an hourly basis. If you think it's going to look like the one in Gone With the Wind you will be sadly disappointed.
While I was sitting in the media lock-up at Osgoode Hall on Monday reading over the decision, I wrote these notes. I think they're pretty straightforward, though any lawyer out there who cares to correct the legalese I'm throwing around is welcome to do so. It's as confounding to me as German.
1. The bawdy house law, which makes it illegal to sell sex from a fixed location or set up a location in which to sell sex, has been deemed unconstitutional. However, Parliament is being given 12 months to draft new legislation that would com-ply with the Charter. In the mean-time, selling sex from a fixed location - a brothel or an in-call - is still illegal.
2. The "living off the avails" charge has been amended to include only ex-ploitation. That takes effect in 30 days.
3. Communicating in public for the purposes of selling or buying sex is still illegal, and, as the decision says, "remains in full force."
If you want to read some well-crafted and measured thoughts on the decision, have a look at this piece written by the Simone de Beauvoir institute in Montreal [PDF].
I have a question about herpes. Can genital herpes lead to the AIDS virus?
I'm having an argument with a friend. She thinks it can, but I don't.
Remember about a month ago I said the reason I still have a sex column is that people get married and then don't have sex ever again and don't understand why? Add to that the fact that people still have archaic ideas about STI contraction.
Genital herpes does not lead to HIV/AIDS. If you have open sores of any type (including herpes sores) the HIV virus (in blood, semen, vaginal fluids and breast milk) can pass through them into the bloodstream. But having the herpes virus does not in itself lead to HIV/AIDS.
I read the review you posted, and I wanted to follow up with you about how Intensity works.
I really wish you'd contacted me after your first use, as I would have been willing to talk to you about the product. The manufacturer is very focused on customer service and wants to ensure that all people who use Intensity are satisfied with the re-sults. However, unless you tell us your experiences, we have no way of doing so.
I would still love the chance to talk to you about it; I suspect it was not a faulty device, but that the device was not inflated properly.
Once it's inserted, you need to inflate it until it the pads are pressed against your vaginal walls. Those pads are where the muscle stimulation begins, which is why inflation is necessary. This is also the reason why the instructions state that you need to ensure the device is properly positioned and inflated before you turn on the power. You should never insert or remove the device when it is turned on. Please contact me at your convenience to talk more about your experience with Intensity.
Karin from Intensity
I did all that was instructed: inflating the device inside of myself (I also inflated it when it was outside of myself to see how big it would get), turning it on when it was inside me, using the electrode gel and a dab of lubricant at the end. Believe me, I didn't want to pull the "functioning" device out when it was inside me, but the current was so painful that I had to.
The device also turns on and off at will. (In fact, as I was cleaning my bed-room the other day, there it was, sitting on the dresser, blinking merrily away even though I'd turned it off the day before.) This has got to be one of the worst qualities in a sex toy. Just as you feel you're about to climax, it cacks out. Nerve-racking. Most of us already feel like we'll never have another orgasm again - that if we do one thing wrong, the gift will escape us. We don't need help supporting this panic.
I'm sorry you didn't agree with my review, but I really do believe you've created a subpar sex toy and that it's overpriced to boot. Trust me: this won't change your sales. As I mentioned, I've been writing a sex column for almost 20 years. People will buy anything to improve their inti-macy without having to really work at it. My own negative reviews of the We Vibe didn't do anything to damage its astronomical sales.
(The video on your website of the two gals just sitting around talking about the product is not helping you, though. It's honestly worse than a tampon ad from the 80s.)
I am being blunt because I don't like seeing people get ripped off or hoodwinked into buying erotic devices that are overpriced and underperforming. It's a theme with sex toy manufacturers, and consumers have little recourse because a lot of these products can't be returned. People are told to try again, and if it doesn't work, oh well, it must be their body. I think that blows.
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