Are you getting all you can out of your orgasms? It's a very important question.
That all-consuming spasm is said to be good for your heart, relieving anxiety and pain, promoting sleep and helping with weight control and cravings. It's like magic.
Which means that optimizing your climactic potential is a gift to your physical and mental self. How're you going to make the earth move?
What the experts say
"Eat a diet high in protein and healthy fats and low in carbs. Fat promotes the production of sex hormones. Protein provides amino acids to make neurotransmitters like dopamine and norepinephrine, both involved in arousal, and serotonin [which alleviates] anxiety. Don't eat trans fats. Magnesium is essential for sexual functioning. Zinc is very important, as is a good B complex vitamin. Stay off gluten and dairy, because they're inflammatory, and no sugar, alcohol or coffee. Selenium is an important supplement for sex; it enhances thyroid function. Flaxseed oil is very good, and ginseng is a sexual tonic from ancient times. Herbals traditionally used are maca, damiana, rhodiola, ashwagandha."
psychiatrist, sex therapist,
New York City
"The more you breathe, the more sensation you feel during sex. Keep taking deep breaths, focusing on the inhale. Build the pelvic floor muscles; work these every day. While making love, squeeze and release the muscles to stimulate the erectile network, which for women includes the clitoral bulbs, the top of the pubic opening where the G spot or urethral sponge is and the perineal sponge at the bottom. Bearing down and pushing out, doing a reverse Kegel, helps you get in touch with your female ejaculation orgasm. There's a pleasure wave: moments of stillness, then light arousal, then back into stillness, then into another level of arousal, etc. People underestimate the power of just being very still.''
sexologist, author, Red Hot Touch,
"Tape garnet or red tiger eye below the belly button to focus sexual energy to the genitalia and stimulate the sex drive. Wear a ruby pendant at the heart for increasing passionate lovemaking. To increase libido, carry vesuvianite in your pockets. It will make you giggle with sexual delight."
author, The Complete Idiot's Guide To Crystals,
"One of the most important things is to know how to optimize a person's stimulation all the way up to orgasm and throughout so as to extend the time. A lot of people will stop stimulation because the partner will feel hypersensitive 5-6 seconds in. It will stop feeling good, and feel irritating, but technically, the orgasm isn't over yet. It's just trailing off. Instead of stopping, cut your stimulation by about 80 percent and the other person will ride the tail of the orgasm. Some people have pleasure anxiety, which has to do with a incapability of enduring high level, intense pleasure. If a person has pleasure anxiety, they themselves will reduce the optimal level of stimulation, either consciously or unconsciously. Be aware [you might have this], and push yourself to take the max.''
sex life coach,
"Become very present to how arousal and orgasm operate in you. Then look for ways to expand your capacity to feel pleasure. Watch how your arousal goes up and down. Are you tired today? Are you depressed? You can teach yourself how to stay around your arousal levels for longer and longer periods of time. People don't realize they can take huge amounts of pleasure. Orgasm begins in the physical but moves out into the other dimensions. All lovemaking happens on a spiritual level. If a person can stay focused, that helps the spiritual energy open up. The fundamental practice is to be very still and watch for the flow of energy in your body while being stimulated, breathing deeply and maintaining the mental focus on sensation."
founder and instructor, the Tantra Workshop,
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