A new study by Match.com looks at the attitudes toward stoners as romantic partners, as well as the sexual proclivities of those who dance with Mary Jane. The study surveyed just over 1,000 Canadians from all sexual orientations and gender identities to reveal that smokers might be luckier in love than their straight-laced counterparts.
Generally, the findings reveal that attitudes towards a potential mate who smokes are fairly positive. It also suggests that stoners are getting out there, having gone on 41 per cent more dates than non-smokers in the past year.
“The kind of transition to being more accepting of being a pot smoker falls in line with society,” says Kimberly Moffit. She’s Match’s in-house relationship expert, a Toronto-based therapist and former member of the Canadian girl group Untamed.
Moffit says dating trends take their cues from general societal movements, and with promise of the legalization of weed and the proliferation of medical marijuana patients around the country, it might be no surprise that taboos about dating stoners are going up in smoke.
“Nobody wants to date a criminal or someone who they perceive as engaging in something illegal,” she says. “Once society sees something as being harmful or dangerous or bad, the dating world kind of reflects that.”
But not all vices are perceived equally. The findings show that Canadians prefer to date someone who smokes weed over someone who smokes cigarettes or drinks heavily.
Moffit thinks this might have to do with moderation: whereas weed consumption can be seen as falling along a spectrum of indulgence, heavy drinking or smoking cigarettes might be interpreted as impacting a potential mate’s daily life.
The study also revealed that 79 per cent of weed smokers were more likely to have had a date in last year. And their first dates tend to last longer than non-smokers.
“[The stat] suggests that they’re having deeper and more interesting conversations right from the very first date,” Moffit says.
And those longer first dates seem to lead directly into the bedroom. Smokers were just over twice as likely to have had sex in the past year than non-smokers – and a staggering 353 per cent more likely to have had a threesome.
“Because of the stigma associated with marijuana in the past, I think that someone who would kind of go out on a limb and smoke marijuana in the first place might be a little bit more of a risk-taker and I think those habits might translate over to the bedroom,” says Moffit.
“These people are probably just more open-minded freethinkers who are non-judgmental and want to have a good time.”
Maybe this means that more people have traded coma-inducing indica for a more salacious sativa. Regardless, perhaps these findings can finally put the stereotype of the lethargic, unmotivated stoner to bed.
More insights from the survey:
- Weed smokers have longer first dates (an average of 2.18 hours) than singles who don’t smoke (an average of 1.95 hours)
- 31 per cent of pot smokers say they want to get married
- Marijuana smokers indicate “treats me with respect,” “someone I can trust” and “a sense of humour and makes me laugh” as what they desire most in a relationship
- 19 per cent of Canadians say they smoke marijuana before fooling around
- Those who smoke weed are more than twice as likely to have had sex in the last year
- Weed smokers are more than three times more likely to have had sex in public than non-smokers
- Those who smoke had 58 per cent more partners in one year than non-smokers
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